tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post8144474494769828694..comments2023-04-15T19:23:22.472+10:00Comments on the mommyhood memos: who's growth spurt is it anyway?Adriel Bookerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00128519182850037060noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-85580665433425080052010-07-17T12:23:20.722+10:002010-07-17T12:23:20.722+10:00For me this meant taking a more specific & nee...For me this meant taking a more specific & needed look at some long-time family issues. I posted about this before, but I started going to a counselor shortly after Isis was born to work through some stuff. Then - amazingly if you know my family - my parents started going with me. It's been really hard & something I should have done years ago, but becoming a mother & being responsible for teaching this child about family & honesty & grace has meant taking some hard looks at my own issues & the issues of others that affect me on a daily basis.<br /><br />It's not easy. But in this, and many other ways, Isis has already taught me to learn & grow in ways I never expected.Cameronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11905013570660801371noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-8200779361549884102010-07-17T10:18:47.159+10:002010-07-17T10:18:47.159+10:00Wow Adriel! You are a great writer! So easy to r...Wow Adriel! You are a great writer! So easy to read and so real and expressive. I can't say how glad I am not to have little infants anymore. I relax so much more in a different way since my youngest turned 1 or 1 and a half I suppose. It's wonderful when they grow...God continue to bless you with patience and strength! <br /><br />NaomiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-61448589115302375872010-07-17T08:18:47.099+10:002010-07-17T08:18:47.099+10:00Thanks for doing a shout out about my blog. I got...Thanks for doing a shout out about my blog. I got that outfit from Target. I don't know if they have them over there though haha. <br /><br />I can't believe how big your little man is getting. <br /><br />Its so sad isn't it? It goes by so so fast!! I just want to freeze time somedays.Shawntae @ alittlekingandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16270114214839473927noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-25338587100365196212010-07-17T07:41:26.059+10:002010-07-17T07:41:26.059+10:00Oh yes. Exactly. I remember the early growth spurt...Oh yes. Exactly. I remember the early growth spurt days, and they still happen at 18 months (to both of us). But now I feel better equipped to just roll with it. On most days. I think that's what people mean when they tell you it will get better. It's not that kids become easier-- there are always new challenges-- it's just that you become more adept at handling things.<br /><br />And I second HRH Mommy. Taking some time out just for you is so so important for your sanity and for being a better mama. But I'm sure you already know that. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14222856619886484288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-71335629503357041532010-07-17T06:42:27.951+10:002010-07-17T06:42:27.951+10:00You nailed it Adriel! You are so right! I rememb...You nailed it Adriel! You are so right! I remember the trying times we had with both boys when they were around 3 months old. both of them struggled with their digestive tracts around that age and it made for so many crying (make that: screaming) spells resulting from food, gas, and pains. there was nothing that could be done, except them "growing out of it". I remember with Kai, constantly wondering what "i was doing wrong", or what "I could do differently". At the end I learned that some things you just don't have control over as a mom. All you can do is let your kids ride the ride and hold their hand (or hold them / cuddle them - in other words: be there for them).<br /><br />And that doesn't change. As they get older, the problems will change, but there will always be situations that you cannot fix as the mom, no matter how much you want to. All you can do is 'just' be there for them.<br /><br />Having gone through all that with 1 baby, you would think that the 2nd one would be easier. It is never 'easier' to see your 2nd one in similar pains and discomforts, just because you made it through all that with #1. It simply is not. However, you do remember that you went through that before and that you made it through. That helps and soothes mommy.<br /><br />When it comes to my sanity: my husband and I have an arrangement that I take a 2-hour block every week that is for me. I don't want to be around the house / the kids, I want to be by myself, or with a girl friend. No responsibility of "where is the toddler running towards?" or "why is the baby crying?" Just 2 hours for ME, after a week of mommy-ing, I deserve that. I highly recommend it. it saves my sanity.<br /><br />Finally, I have launched a new initiative (Friday Faves) on my blog and would love your thoughts / feedback. When you have a chance, check it out at:<br /><br />http://mformommy.blogspot.com/2010/07/m-for-mommy-presents-friday-faves.htmlHRH Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15192603416830501225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-50322108699995170672010-07-17T04:11:57.417+10:002010-07-17T04:11:57.417+10:00Motherhood DEF stretches you.
I was TERRIFIED t...Motherhood DEF stretches you. <br /><br />I was TERRIFIED the closer it came to delivery because I knew there was no running away from the responsibilities of parenthood. And I'm not talking about the obvious-- caring for a baby. I mean the fact that I would no longer have the luxury of running from myself, staying within my comfort zone and NOT facing my deepest terrors. <br /><br />Almost a year into it, I can't believe how well I'm doing! Hahaha! Of course, I take it one day at a time. There's a certain zen-like comfort in taking care of Baby's needs. The day to day rigors keep me from over-thinking and over-analyzing... I don't have the TIME to even contemplate the fears and anxieties I used to have. <br /><br />I have grown so much as a person since becoming a mother. I'm much more creative and courageous.Black Wombmyn Chathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15851958619453943966noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-58909337224041071402010-07-17T03:35:08.747+10:002010-07-17T03:35:08.747+10:00Oh My Goodness! Thank you for this!
Vanessa is 7 ...Oh My Goodness! Thank you for this!<br /><br />Vanessa is 7 weeks old and Seriously I feel like I have been up with her since she was 3 weeks old. Growth spurt lasting a few days my ass! Someone didnt live in my house with my kid! Throw me a bone already!<br /><br />And I agree, when one ends, another begins! And I too question my body's ability to keep up with her. Drives me nuts. <br /><br />So again, thank you for this!! I needed to read that I am not alone!Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14938266712619725042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-73622430794198009552010-07-17T02:18:57.339+10:002010-07-17T02:18:57.339+10:00I was certainly waiting for this! You explained it...I was certainly waiting for this! You explained it perfectly---the ups and downs and the self-reflection are what make us great parents. We have the opportunity to learn about ourselves while caring for our children. I too had to learn that raising a child definitely puts what you want and need into perspective. Thankfully this blessing of a child shows me daily what it means to sacrifice and receive unconditional love in return.Asashiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04285928953766086951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-61814010916490727692010-07-17T01:06:35.912+10:002010-07-17T01:06:35.912+10:00Oh you took the words right out of my mouth! Thank...Oh you took the words right out of my mouth! Thank you for this post!! I swear my 5 month old goes through 'growth spurts' every other week! The whole month of June, maybe. But you're so right, these are the things we want to see- our little babies growing and learning! Through it all, I feel so blessed to be able to witness it all!Mandy@ a sorta fairytalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08748261732968499309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-2202742615105638072010-07-17T00:50:21.919+10:002010-07-17T00:50:21.919+10:00Nail on the head... AGAIN! Over and over again I&...Nail on the head... AGAIN! Over and over again I'm asking mu hubby "am I doing this right? Joss must be the ONLY baby in the world who doesn't sleep through the night!" But its comforting to know I'm not the only one, slamming the sheets over (secretly wishing my hubby will get up and decided to do it for me) and stomping out of bed because she's wide awake again and some how her play time in the crib turned into a bumped head and screaming tears. Err... those growth spurt side effects... but growing with Joss is a beautiful journey, I wouldn't have it any other way (ok, maybe a few more hours of sleep).Jhen.Starkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12731079023004004203noreply@blogger.com