tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post5841240361394998722..comments2023-04-15T19:23:22.472+10:00Comments on the mommyhood memos: would you rather raise happy kids or whole kids? {sacred parenting series, part 2}Adriel Bookerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00128519182850037060noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-42717989887560303142010-11-29T14:16:51.861+10:002010-11-29T14:16:51.861+10:00I have a friend who has been very discouraged abou...I have a friend who has been very discouraged about parenthood so much so that she didnt want to have any children anymore (they only one - and she rules their world). My heart goes out to her... but one day, i went to visit her and found a book in her toilet called "How To Keep Your Child Happy". Needless to say, the book is filled with ideas on how to keep your child happy against all odds! No wonder my friend was discouraged! Well - i didn't feel i was there to "teach" or even to speak into her life at that time other than giving her another "mommy-shoulder" to cry on.. But it did make me reflect on my own "mommyhood" journey - the whole issue about "Happiness Vs Holiness". We are called to raise a holy generation. And the word "holy" is not as spiritual as we thought it is. It just plainly means "uncommon" or "set apart". A generation that is uncommon and set apart for God's purposes. At home, we use the word "thankful" more than "happy".... when receiving a gift, we often asked them since they were very young, "Are you thankful?" instead of "Are you happy?" Now that they are "abit" older (5 years old)... it is such a huge blessing when they come up to us and say - "Mama, i am so thankful for....." That doesnt mean our children are deprived or anything... it just means that even in young age they are learning that their happiness is built within and not without. And whenever we teach our children some life values - we often found them teaching us back (and more!) when they finally grasped it! Thanks Adriel for sharing :)Shirley Stinglehttp://www.cleaningwithnorwex.com.aunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-78808032854720964252010-09-05T18:24:52.224+10:002010-09-05T18:24:52.224+10:00I really need to get this book! Have you read The...I really need to get this book! Have you read The Lazy Parent's Manifesto? Here's an interesting read: http://www.drmomma.org/2010/02/idle-parenting-leaving-kids-alone.htmlRachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08474327650954862237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-79981412909119238182010-09-04T10:09:46.576+10:002010-09-04T10:09:46.576+10:00As a mom of almost grown/grown kids, ages 17-29, h...As a mom of almost grown/grown kids, ages 17-29, happiness is superficial, being emotionally and mentally whole is definitely most important (other than spiritual). We cannot shield our kids from every pain, we just have to help them learn from the trials that come their way. We have to teach them to be smart and use wisdom in their everyday dealings.<br />Just my 2 cents!<br /><br />Bernice<br />http://bernicewood.wordpress.com/2010/09/03/so-what-is-good-enough/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-4972524014354109922010-09-02T09:13:15.362+10:002010-09-02T09:13:15.362+10:00This is a great thoughtful post. I dislike seeing...This is a great thoughtful post. I dislike seeing when other kids don't share with KLV, I can't imagine parents who have to watch their kids go through worse. I'm sure there will come a day when I laugh at my only worry being whether kids are sharing with her but for now it's where we are at...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08227901246269675588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-12698831208644811452010-09-02T04:41:20.006+10:002010-09-02T04:41:20.006+10:00You make very good points. This post was really th...You make very good points. This post was really thought-provoking and thank you for that. I think as parents we're always faced with this question, whether we realize it or not. Often there is a fine line between making them happy and doing what is right by them and their growth.Mandy@ a sorta fairytalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08748261732968499309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-6202315372794006082010-09-02T03:46:41.351+10:002010-09-02T03:46:41.351+10:00I was just thinking about this today! Poor Niall ...I was just thinking about this today! Poor Niall slammed his head into the floor board when he was trying to move from one piece of furniture to the next. I immediately thought "Ok, that's enough exploring for today." But then I realized, he needs to stumble and fall a few times before he can get it right. I can't stop him from getting hurt along the way, but I can be there for him when he needs me. I think that's the best you can do :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03762446316749653121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-83206397636681197752010-09-02T00:03:42.504+10:002010-09-02T00:03:42.504+10:00Good points. I recently had to send my son to pres...Good points. I recently had to send my son to preschool. He cried but he still enjoys it as the same time. You can't shield them from everything. And it all depends on age on how to correctly soothe them. Being a parent is hard, the hardest job ever. We have to go on instinct, knowledge and professional advice from doctors and books. Nice post Adriel!~Lisa~https://www.blogger.com/profile/01343794325205886423noreply@blogger.com