tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post2749003231251856670..comments2023-04-15T19:23:22.472+10:00Comments on the mommyhood memos: enough is enoughAdriel Bookerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00128519182850037060noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-34446996551831381782011-05-11T21:44:31.576+10:002011-05-11T21:44:31.576+10:00I remember this well, and am feeling this again!! ...I remember this well, and am feeling this again!! Somehow, God multiplied the love in my heart - and because of how my #2 came into this world (vastly different birth experience than my #1) it was such an instant bond that I was blown away with the graciousness of God and His great love for us. TOTALLY different emotions than I was expecting at that particular moment in my life!! ;-) Now #3 is coming in Sept, and I find myself wondering many of the same thoughts you just articulated, and wondering how it will be this time - wow.Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10160352727815500872noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-92221024110248743232011-04-29T11:13:36.768+10:002011-04-29T11:13:36.768+10:00how do you set your account so you can reply with ...how do you set your account so you can reply with email?Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04762555921549623200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-54854353774609050142011-04-29T11:07:21.188+10:002011-04-29T11:07:21.188+10:00I am so glad that you posted this! I often wonder...I am so glad that you posted this! I often wonder how different my second pregnancy will be when we decide that we are ready to make our family larger. It's crazy the things we think about and worry about, but at least we know that we are not alone.Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04762555921549623200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-41571092677461907272011-04-29T10:56:52.941+10:002011-04-29T10:56:52.941+10:00I worry about this now and I am not even expecting...I worry about this now and I am not even expecting. You words are so beautiful... a mommy that worries about being enough is usually way more than enough.Moments and Impressionshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07985790308177683141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-56573273557245792042011-04-28T15:44:47.268+10:002011-04-28T15:44:47.268+10:00love it! you're so deep and smartlove it! you're so deep and smartAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-62508989363659484492011-04-28T11:57:34.399+10:002011-04-28T11:57:34.399+10:00I find that with two babies, I can go back and for...I find that with two babies, I can go back and forth between who to love/cuddle/nurture/think about/teach with lightning speed. You will be there 100% for both of them when they each need it. I don't know how we do it, but we do. Like when you FINALLY get the baby to sleep, only to realize Baby #1 needs you for something. You go from being completely exhausted to ready to help the older child. It's crazy and in our DNA. You'll do great :)Becky @ Rub Some Dirt On Ithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01852648351275160422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-76945129691977176452011-04-28T04:43:47.854+10:002011-04-28T04:43:47.854+10:00Oh, I soooo get you on this post! I feel the same ...Oh, I soooo get you on this post! I feel the same way! It's weird, and I was explaining this to a friend the other day, it's like I have so much room in my heart to love this other baby, but my mind feels out of space to think of this baby as obsessively as I did my first baby. And, I guess that's for the best. I am enjoying this time and will enjoy baby #2 when *she comes.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13580525191212992829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-70875412930866721722011-04-28T03:32:14.190+10:002011-04-28T03:32:14.190+10:00This is such an insightful post. I love how you ki...This is such an insightful post. I love how you kind of find a balance with thinking more about levi now knowing that little #2 will soon occupy those thoughts. I worry about these same things when considering our future family size... But I know logically that women have multiple very loved children all the time... My heart just can't imagine being more in love than I am now, and really, that is a good thing, right? :)Bransonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15192536399187665762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-44417770721169731542011-04-27T23:58:05.764+10:002011-04-27T23:58:05.764+10:00I know just what you mean. Especially when the pr...I know just what you mean. Especially when the pregnancies are so close, it feels like the first was barely through before our second was on the way too. I know I should be doing more "nesting" or preparing or whatever, but our first is growing fast too, and I don't want to miss anything!<br /> <br />Lindsey @ GrowingKidsMinistry.comLindsey Whitneyhttp://www.growingkidsministry.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-28284790963936549702011-04-27T13:35:40.918+10:002011-04-27T13:35:40.918+10:00It's all normal, your thoughts and fears. I a...It's all normal, your thoughts and fears. I always tell my first time pregger friends to relish it, because it will never be like that again! And it's so true. But just like love, your headspace multiplies, your ability to manage needs multiplies, and your skill as mom multiplies. It's all in God's perfect design. Don't overthink it. Just let it happen. :-)The Planet Pinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03742334196908870709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-46355425785129489572011-04-27T06:22:10.434+10:002011-04-27T06:22:10.434+10:00I feel the same way - some days I even almost forg...I feel the same way - some days I even almost forget that I'm pregnant! I get surprised when I see my big belly, and give people funny looks when they hand me something and warn me that it's heavy. Last time I could tell you how many weeks and days along I was, and this time, they are FLYING by! I have my busy little toddler to thank for that :) And I'm more nervous, not less nervous this time... because how in the world do you meet both the needs of a curious toddler and needy newborn at the same time? I guess we will find out soon enough!!!Jenniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12066447194239977449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-42785959790347415532011-04-27T05:08:17.430+10:002011-04-27T05:08:17.430+10:00If I could have a nickel for every time I felt thi...If I could have a nickel for every time I felt this way....sometimes I feel so disconnected with this pregnancy...I am just so busy and Robi is in a "funk" right now - whining all the time. He has grown a bit high-maintenance. Maybe he senses change (and I am sure the molars he's still cutting, combined with the eye teeth that are coming in doesn't help either). <br /><br />I am just soooo, sooo glad I am not the only one. I feel so much better after reading this. You are right - we would never feel we've cared enough, loved enough, hugged and kissed our kids enough...and somehow it makes me feel better, too.Rosilind Jukichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08304788871235090080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-81732756529636053372011-04-27T02:05:28.359+10:002011-04-27T02:05:28.359+10:00Adriel, I am Annie Schrader's sister, and I fo...Adriel, I am Annie Schrader's sister, and I follow your blog occasionally because your first and mine were born just days apart, and it seems our #2's will be born in the same manner :) This blog captures completely what I have been struggling through over the last several weeks. I devote my whole day to my toddler, and I haven't bought or made or planned anything for #2 like I had for #1 at this point. I haven't prayed for #2 or talked to #2 or dreamed about #2 like I had for #1. And I do feel like I'm cheating him/her out of a bond with me that #1 had. But I, like you, have to rest in the fact that God is enough and that this is normal for moms. Thank you for validating me and my feelings!sarahbrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12779457254819045372noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-31203299159263661462011-04-27T01:31:38.924+10:002011-04-27T01:31:38.924+10:00Of course I can relate so well to this post. Very ...Of course I can relate so well to this post. Very beautifully put, too. You're quite right about this being the season of life we're in and all of the concerns that come along with starting and expanding a family. As I feel my baby girl move more and more, I'm feeling increasingly connected to her. And then of course my worries turn to Q again. It's completely natural, right?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14222856619886484288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-74918293500982846102011-04-27T01:26:32.743+10:002011-04-27T01:26:32.743+10:00I struggled with these thoughts my entire pregnanc...I struggled with these thoughts my entire pregnancy...I don't have answers. :( I think it's a natural evolution of thought processes since your life is nothing like it was with your first pregnancy, but it's hard to swallow...or at least it was for me.<br /><br />And it will change when baby is born, just as you said. I don't think you'll find that you can't love them both, but almost like you don't have time to do everything you want to with both of them in a day. Eisley is nearly 8 weeks old and we're still working on it...some days I feel completely in control, other days, not so much. <br /><br />You'll get there-rest assured you do have enough love in your heart!Hillaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17449503652331302016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-20164780154572012572011-04-27T00:17:28.132+10:002011-04-27T00:17:28.132+10:00I love this post Adriel. So honest. I often feel t...I love this post Adriel. So honest. I often feel the same way. But as this baby boy grows inside me and I feel him more and more each day, I am sure I will have all the love and grace I need for him. I know you will too.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15844044043862943341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3086626171561679956.post-36589269713739433512011-04-27T00:07:10.190+10:002011-04-27T00:07:10.190+10:00I have often felt a lot of these thoughts towards ...I have often felt a lot of these thoughts towards my second child who is not even in my womb yet! I look at Daisy and adore her so intensely and almost feel sad that the special one on one time we get to have ever day will have to change to welcome in another little person someday. BUt, I know I will love them both and I will do my best to balance it all as you are saying. This was a very beautiful post! I have to say when I saw the first *she I was all excited like, wait, how did I miss that she is having a girl??? hehe When do you find out?? I'm getting anxious over here! haha.Casey Martinezhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16979686059026867887noreply@blogger.com